the envelope, please 

There are many different schools of thought when it comes to addressing invitations, but these are some best practices I’ve picked up along the way! 

A note on salutations: Some people choose to use Mrs. for any married woman, whether or not she shares her husband’s last name. Also, in the case that one person in the couple has a title such as Dr. or The Honorable, that person will always come first. In the case that both individuals have such a title, the below rules will still apply.

 

married couples

same last name

Mr. & Mrs. Witter

or

Mr. & Mrs. Pacey Witter

or

Pacey & Joey Witter

different last name

Mr. Pacey Witter & Ms. Joey Potter

or

Pacey Witter & Joey Potter

 

Traditionally, the man’s name comes first when a couple is married. However, if you know the woman better than the man, the woman’s name may come first.


married couples (same gender)

 

same last name

Mrs. & Mrs. Rosenberg

or

Mrs. Tara & Mrs. Willow Rosenberg

or 

Tara & Willow Rosenberg

different last name

Ms. Tara Maclay & Ms. Willow Rosenberg

or

Tara Maclay & Willow Rosenberg

If you know both individuals equally well, you may write the names alphabetically. If you know one person better than the other, that person’s name may come first. 


unmarried couples

 

live together

Ms. Allison Blake & Mr. Jack Carter

or

Allison Blake & Jack Carter

do not live together

Ms. Allison Blake

Mr. Jack Carter

or

Allison Blake

Jack Carter

For unmarried couples who live together, you may either list the woman first, or whichever guest you know better. For those who do not live together, the name of the person at the address you’re mailing to comes first.